“When I walk into the building, everybody’s hands go up!”
Self-confidence is critical to success because each and every day the world will do everything it can to make you feel like a nobody and make you think you won’t accomplish your goals. To avoid that trap, you have got to give yourself a shot of confidence before you start each day. Here’s what I do: Every morning before I leave the house, I look into the mirror and say, “James, You Da Man!” I do because I know time I get on Atlanta’s expressways people are going to be telling me otherwise by not letting me merge into traffic, blowing their horns, and giving me the finger. By starting the day the way I do, I just smile because I’m not going to let them bring me down. My smile makes them madder than hell. It hurts them more than if I was cursing them out. It does because they know I’m flying higher than they are and refuse to let them bring me down.
That attitude allowed me to deal with very difficult people and situations. For example, after I retired I had people tell me they admired my ability to walk into rooms with confidence and swagger when I was being called everything but my name. I did because of how I started the morning and I also had that song “All I do is win!” by DJ Khaled playing in my head. That self-confidence allowed me to see things and people not as they are but how I want them to be. As a result, I heard cheers instead of condemnations and maintained my focus instead of losing it.
My message this Wednesday is to begin your day with positive reinforcement before you start dealing with the world and to also give yourself another shot of it before going into tough situations. If you don’t, you will lose your confidence and focus, or worst yet, become as frustrated and angry as your haters are.
In closing, tomorrow morning, begin your day with a shot of self-confidence and a song. That powerful one-two combination will allow you to walk into the building and see everybody’s hands go up.