Whenever we meet, I immediately know two things about you before you say a word:
You have a dream; and
You are struggling with a major challenge.
I know these two things because everyone has a dream within them and a challenge before them. (I.e., “There can not be a testimony without a test.”) It doesn’t make a difference what stage of life you are in—you will always have dreams and challenges. Indeed, the more successful you become the greater the challenges. As the Notorious B.I.G. said, “More money, more problems.” Conversely, when you have no money all you have are problems. I have been in both situations, so the advice I give to achieve and overcome is from personal experience.
To achieve your dream and overcome the challenge, here are the following three things you need to do:
Be willing to let people know what both of them are: No person ever achieves or overcomes anything alone, so don’t let your pride or fear of people judging and not helping you keep you from reaching out for assistance. Be ready for the majority of people you tell to say patronizing or discouraging things; however, take comfort in knowing that there will always be someone who will assist you. Indeed, always remember that you only need one person with the right power or connections to open doors for you. This fact gets lost in this age of social media. People judge success on the number of views, likes, and shares that a post gets. Those numbers don’t mean a thing. One view from the right person is more powerful than millions of them. It is because many people are curious of your situation, but very few can actually help. For that reason, I have always lived my life based on the “Rule of one” philosophy.
2. Be persistent: Keep on asking, seeking and knocking until the right person answers. I
have seen too many people quit way too early. How persistent a person is shows how
much she really believes in her dream and how determined she is to overcome the
challenges. Always keep in mind that there is no challenge—no challenge—that
someone else has not overcome before. Your critical success factor is to keep on
asking until you find the person who has that experience. You will immediately
know it is the right person because she will tell you in very simple terms what you
need to do and help you do it.
3. Be willing to do the lowest task before the highest: Every dream and big challenge
has a first step, so always be willing to do it before the last, breakthrough one. Way
too many people, including me, want to jump to that last step. Be willing to put in the
work before getting the prize. In other words, be willing for people to look down on
you before they look up to you. Doing those jobs and tasks will allow you to relate to
and respect frontline people. It is a critical experience because it is frontline people
who will become your biggest supporters. They will have your back because they
know you respect them.
In closing, you read this blog because you have a dream and are dealing with challenges. Now you know the three things you need to do to overcome and achieve your dream. Once you achieve your current dream, you will have another one and also a major challenge. Most importantly, you will have established a track record of achieving your dreams and overcoming challenges that you can look back on for encouragement and look forward to for confidence.