Father's Day is always special to me because I take tremendous pride in being a father. Mine died when I was ten. I was fortunate to have other men ranging from uncles, coaches, counselors, to my father-in-law become my surrogate dad. I have learned a lot, and keep on learning, what it takes to be a dad. The main lessons are:
Word matter, so be careful what you say: Children, regardless of their age, are going to make you mad and disappointed at times. Focus on the decision they made and not who they are as a person.
Listening is much more important than talking: Men like to fix things, so we are sometimes too quick to want to take action. Sometimes being an active listener is the only action you need to take.
Presence is more important than presents: My best times with our daughters were on the trips we took, the fishing we did, the sneaking into hotel swimming pools, and going to their events, whether it was school plays, children's choir, soccer, softball, basketball, or ballet.
The great thing about life is that all men get a chance to be a father and make a difference in a kids life whether they are your biological kids or not, just like the men who did in mine. To all, Happy Father's Day!